Setting boundaries in your life

BrendaPersonal Development

In life, one has to have limits on how close people get to you. Setting boundaries in your life means that you respect yourself. Your opinions, beliefs, thoughts, and pursuing what you value should be respected.It is okey to be different, love yourself for who you are. There are people who are still in their 40’s or older yet, someone somehow controls their life. How do you know it’s time to set boundaries?

5 ways to tell when to set boundaries in your life

Are you feeling that it is time to set boundaries? Here are some of the ways to guide you;

1.People annoy you

Maybe you are hanging out with people who frequently annoy you. This might be through conversations that make you stressed. Your peace of mind matters, find ways to avoid a group that annoys you. If there are statements or actions that they do that make you uncomfortable, let them know, if they don’t change you are better off alone.

2. You are the only one initiating conversations and hangouts

It is very boring to be the spokesperson in your circle of friends or in your relationship. Speak up and tell them that you feel that you are forcing yourself into their lives. At times it is even better to walk away from a group that you are kind of bothering. Setting boundaries in your life means that you have to feel at peace in your space.

3. They are hurtful, insulting, demeaning, and degrading towards you

It hurts when you hang out with people who make you feel bad about yourself. Life is too short to be spending time with people who do not value your worth. Respect yourself and walk away from situations that do not help you grow.

4. Feeling negative about yourself after spending time with them

There are people in your life, who will always have something against you. Nothing you do in life will ever look good or right to them. There is nothing like a perfect life. Quit toxic friendships and relationships.

Related; Types of friends to cut from your life

5. You fall for their mercy and your time or schedule does not matter

When setting boundaries in your life, it is important to notice that you might lose your mind trying to please people. You are not a robot, have time for yourself. It is not a must you show up at every event that your friends or partner hosts. Also, check;7 ways to overcome the critic in you

Setting boundaries depends on how close you are to the person concerned. Always do what your inner voice, tells you and you also feel comfortable about the situation. A strong positive mental attitude will create more miracles than a wonder drug.

You can also check: The Art of Extreme Self-Care: Transform Your Life One Month at a Time and Boundaries in Marriage (along with several books on boundaries by the same authors).